What is the greatest lesson you've learned so far in your life?

Hmmm.... the greatest lesson would be...

 

You can't change a person... no matter how much you try.  All the talking and pleading wont change that person's being, personality, or ideals.  The only person you can change is yourself and only if you really want to.

 

I wish I had realised this when I was 13 and I was pleading for my dad to stop drinking. Yes, he had a disease but all my words were wasted because only him alone could do the changing and he wouldn't.... couldn't. 

 

This is a lesson that is only learnt through time and time alone. No one can tell you this.  They try but the youthful spirit says "yeah right... let me try!"  This is what brings disillusionment and disappointment.  When I realised this fact, life suddenly got a lot easier to live. I realised I couldnt change my then husband... that made the discision to leave much easier, he would never change his abusive ways. I can accept the ways of others... I just move on. I still get frustrated but life is easier to live... there are no longer the "why does he have to be so mean?"  Now its just me looking to the future and only working on me.

 

K